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Post by sargassosea on Nov 3, 2009 15:06:35 GMT -5
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Post by xara on Nov 3, 2009 15:10:11 GMT -5
Great post. I am glad you are doing the things you love again.
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Post by rosa on Nov 3, 2009 15:13:25 GMT -5
Arietty, that is such a beautiful description of both how limiting the life was and how you found acceptable outlets in it. My folks never got that religious, but they were broke for a long time and my mom got to be a really really good cook on a limited budget. After we moved out she just stopped cooking. She gave me the cookie cutters, the turkey roasting pan, and her cookbook. After about 15 years, she started cooking a little bit again but more on the lines of frozen peas with a sandwich.
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Post by redheadedskeptic on Nov 3, 2009 17:15:21 GMT -5
huh! What an interesting perspective! I never thought of it like that before. Well put!
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Post by lectio on Nov 3, 2009 17:19:29 GMT -5
Ha! Arriety, I had a serious love of cooking---the whole foods thing---and it's never come back. Never.
Interestingly, I never was that into cooking before I married...it was only during it, when I was desperately trying to find meaning and fulfillment in my home-centered calling, that I got waaaay into it. Freshly ground wheat, home-baked bread, the works.
I cook now, of course. But not like that. I've often wondered what the heck happened---where'd that big huge love go----and your post has helped me figure out what it was and why it's not there anymore. Thanks.
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Post by whatkindofwoman on Nov 3, 2009 17:36:27 GMT -5
"...why it was okay to not to make your child do all 200 problems in every Rod and Staff math lesson."Ha! I'm still apologizing to my first-grader for making her do a few months of Rod & Staff. <- can these be queasiness icons?
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Post by mompom on Nov 3, 2009 17:49:33 GMT -5
Is there a homeschool thread/group/site that is still sort of pro homeschool but anti QF/legalistic/fundie? I'd love to talk with moms who are somewhat balanced in this area, because most if not all of the homeschool groups in my area are ones that seek "excellence" vs. ones that seek a chill, happy childhood and fun relationship with kids. I'm definitely more focused towards the latter with solid academics thrown in, but not in an OCD way or anything.
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Post by lectio on Nov 3, 2009 18:33:55 GMT -5
You might want to check out the comments boxes at True Womanhood (a blog). Lots of women who've come out of "biblical patriarchy," most of whom are still homeschooling.
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Post by mompom on Nov 3, 2009 20:50:25 GMT -5
Thanks, lectio, I do check out that blog and also That mom's site. Yours too, for the record! They are really helpful and encouraging.
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Post by km on Nov 3, 2009 23:28:10 GMT -5
Nor were there ready-to-go Christian substitutes unless I wanted to elevate Janette Oak to the same level as Margaret Atwood. That is such a depressing thought. I'm sorry that you had to give up so many of the things you loved. I found your discussion of homeschooling conferences especially compelling--I often suspected that the intellectual stimulation was much of the draw for many of the women I knew.
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Post by krwordgazer on Nov 3, 2009 23:41:33 GMT -5
Christian conferences. Heh. We were cordially required to attend-- and to this day I can't bring myself to go to any conference of any kind. Not even a comic book convention, lol.
Not that I remember being allowed much scope for ideas at Maranatha World Leadership Conferences. It was mostly just imbibing what we were told to believe. . .
So many limits, such a cookie-cutter mentality-- it doesn't make sense, does it? Why should only one creative outlet be allowed? Why should it only be ok for a woman to express intellectual ideas at a Christian conference? Blech.
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Post by barbaraw on Nov 7, 2009 5:44:12 GMT -5
<- can these be queasiness icons? They sure look queasy to me! ;D
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