Hillary
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Post by Hillary on Jan 10, 2010 4:33:47 GMT -5
^^That's a great site. I know someone who was able to be helped by them.
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Post by runawaybride on Jan 20, 2010 10:15:21 GMT -5
When I was putting up with my former life, I did so because I believed God wanted me to withstand abuse in order to "Win my husband without a word". I felt like a " Good Girl" when I cleaned, baked, served dinner on nice china at the table, wore dresses, threw out my birth control pills ( not that I needed them it turned out, I am woefully under-fertile) and related subservient behavior.
I believed I was supposed to be a martyr. I remember being told to get over myself because I wasn't getting enough sleep. I remember being told that I should continue trying to have babies, no matter what the physical cost to me. I remember being told that your house should be spotless even if you are ill.
In short.. these women will feel guilty. We have to make them feel like God doesn't want them to suffer, and that this kind of suffering is not His will. I appreciate the Atheists here.. but the women by and large aren't going to feel comfortable with atheist language. (it doesn't bother ME.. i'm just trying to see out of my old eyes)
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Post by Sierra on Jan 20, 2010 11:14:16 GMT -5
In short.. these women will feel guilty. We have to make them feel like God doesn't want them to suffer, and that this kind of suffering is not His will. I appreciate the Atheists here.. but the women by and large aren't going to feel comfortable with atheist language. (it doesn't bother ME.. i'm just trying to see out of my old eyes) I think about this frequently, as I do earnestly want to help women in the situation where I once was - confused, afraid, desperate to escape and yet terrified of losing my faith entirely. I would have been very put off by anyone trying to urge me to become an atheist, although I did have an atheist friend who made a point of supporting me without judgment. I hope that by allowing myself to be who I am and to reject the beliefs I can't support, I haven't placed myself so far outside the margin of safety that I can't help those just coming out.
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