Post by avavirginia on Jun 3, 2009 17:43:22 GMT -5
Hi, Vyckie and all ;D
I've been reading here for a few months now. I grew up, the oldest in a large family, reading Gentle Spirit, Pearls, Wilson and all the rest. I’m pretty sure I read your articles Vyckie! We were also in the Bill Gothard program.
I was "courted" by my now husband who has the same background. First kiss at the altar etc...We anticipated having a large family. No birth control, homebirth etc...We were in it hook line and sinker. I was very zealous.
Disillusioned, confused and angry are now better descriptions.
I too had a “difficult” father. I was encouraged to honor him, to “grow” through the suffering, that God would bless my honoring of him. I put up with so much crap! Oh the depression, the guilt, the mind games! I am in my 30’s and am still doing the developmental work I didn’t do as an adolescent.
Lucky for me my husband was raised in an denomination that ordains women and considers himself an egalitarian. He has been a key factor in opening my eyes to the dysfunction and denial I was living with. Frustratingly, just opening the birdcage does little for the bird who knows nothing of life outside it and that is my current journey.
Thank you so much for creating this space and sharing your stories. It is so nice to know that this post will not be answered with a derogatory “You sound angry” comment
Oh, and since I have no one to share this with who wouldn’t be horrified: I just got a (copper) IUD! ;D ;D
I've been reading here for a few months now. I grew up, the oldest in a large family, reading Gentle Spirit, Pearls, Wilson and all the rest. I’m pretty sure I read your articles Vyckie! We were also in the Bill Gothard program.
I was "courted" by my now husband who has the same background. First kiss at the altar etc...We anticipated having a large family. No birth control, homebirth etc...We were in it hook line and sinker. I was very zealous.
Disillusioned, confused and angry are now better descriptions.
I too had a “difficult” father. I was encouraged to honor him, to “grow” through the suffering, that God would bless my honoring of him. I put up with so much crap! Oh the depression, the guilt, the mind games! I am in my 30’s and am still doing the developmental work I didn’t do as an adolescent.
Lucky for me my husband was raised in an denomination that ordains women and considers himself an egalitarian. He has been a key factor in opening my eyes to the dysfunction and denial I was living with. Frustratingly, just opening the birdcage does little for the bird who knows nothing of life outside it and that is my current journey.
Thank you so much for creating this space and sharing your stories. It is so nice to know that this post will not be answered with a derogatory “You sound angry” comment
Oh, and since I have no one to share this with who wouldn’t be horrified: I just got a (copper) IUD! ;D ;D