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Post by madame on Aug 4, 2010 8:27:23 GMT -5
A young missioary couple just lost a baby 15 weeks into the pregnancy. The husband wrote about it, sharing how his wife could not even look at the dead fetus, how painful this loss had been, but how they trust that this baby is now with Jesus, waiting for them.
The letter was posted on FB, where friends of theirs posted their sympathies and words of encouragement.
- .... we know that He is refining you for His glory. - .... He is enough. - .... may the Lord show you His beauty that He can bring from these ashes....
These three seem sooooooo callous! Thankfully, there were many who simply posted things like "grieving with you", or "we are sorry for your loss".
When you've just lost a baby you have all the right in the world to be angry and question God's love and don't need anyone telling you how He is enough or He is using this awful loss to refine you!
Aaaaargh! I just feel for the poor young woman!
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Post by km on Aug 4, 2010 12:06:43 GMT -5
Yes, it seems very callous to me.
By the way, what is FB?
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Post by jemand on Aug 4, 2010 12:21:03 GMT -5
Yes, it seems very callous to me. By the way, what is FB? facebook
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Post by em on Aug 4, 2010 13:02:10 GMT -5
I can't disagree there are much better ways to offer comfort, but I don't really see this as terribly callous. The couple are missionaries. Clearly, they have a very strong belief in God. You say the husband mentioned them being sure the baby is now with Jesus ... to me this implies that they are not questioning their faith (right now, maybe they will later on but maybe they're not), that despite this loss they still want to keep their beliefs. If they had said stuff like that to people who weren't religious or who were questioning their faith then it would be very uncalled for. But they're using religion to try to comfort these people ... which is something those people are doing themselves anyway (believing the baby is with Jesus now). Again, there's absolutely no doubt in my mind that "that is horrible I am so sorry for your loss" is a million times of a better thing to say, but me personally I don't see this as callous given that the people it's directed too obiously are trying to take comfort in God at the moment themselves.
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Post by madame on Aug 4, 2010 13:35:44 GMT -5
Em, I see your point. It would obviously be very uncalled for if this had happened to people who don't believe in God.
Having been a missionary, I can tell you that pain and struggling with God happens to missionaries too, but they are always under pressure because their life is a little bit in the limelight. It's like their choice to be "in ministry" means they have to keep smiling, keep showing faith, keep talking about the goodness of The Lord, regardless of what happens to them, and that may very well be what this husband is doing.
I remember leading worship, feeling awful and beginning to question my faith because of things that were happening, but still having to smile and nod and declare the goodness of the Lord, while all I wanted to do was run as far from there as my legs would carry me. Which I eventually did.
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