juju
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Post by juju on May 20, 2009 16:33:51 GMT -5
My name is Julie but you can call me JuJu. I was raised in a very fundamentalist family (my grandfather was an Assembly of God minister) and several of my cousins are full-on in the Christian Patriarchy movement.
Two years ago I became Catholic. Boy, did that raise some eyebrows.
Anyway I am fascinated by your blog and by this forum. I think I will enjoy this a very great deal. Thank you for putting it together!
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Post by rosa on May 20, 2009 16:50:13 GMT -5
welcome to the boards, Juju!
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juju
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Post by juju on May 20, 2009 16:56:42 GMT -5
I wanted to add a story.
My father was not a very nice person. In fact, he was a mean, bitter drunk who always wanted to make it on the stage and blamed my mother for the fact that he had to get a real job.
When I was growing up, he used to quote the Bible all the time to justify his rules. I was not allowed to cut my hair because he said that the Bible said women should not cut their hair (if I close my eyes I can hear him thundering "Women, do not cut thy hair for it is thy beauty!" he was a radio deejay and he had a fabulously Shakespearean voice for that kind of crap.) He did not want my mother to wear pants because the Bible said women should not wear pants. That sort of thing.
The Bible apparently had no issue with him drinking heavily and whoring around all over the neighborhood, nor did the Bible seem to have any opinion on the fact that my mother had to work as a nurses aide to make ends meet because my father was too busy drinking and whoring around to keep a job. Funny how that works.
Anyway I watched my mother deal with this from the time I was a little child. He used to get drunk and preach at her about how she should be subservient, and she'd been raised in the midwest by a preacher's family so she kind of thought that was what she was supposed to do but she also kind of thought it was crap.
I was 13 and my sister was 6 when she fully decided it was crap and left his drunk preaching ass.
The Bible was mum on his refusal to pay child support, incidentally.
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Post by coleslaw on May 20, 2009 17:16:35 GMT -5
Welcome, juju.
I don't understand the hair business. If women are supposed to wear modest clothing and headscarves, why are they supposed to have long, seductive hair? One would think cutting it would be the easiest way of not tempting men.
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Post by grandmalou on May 20, 2009 19:29:22 GMT -5
Welcome, JuJu... You will find many friends here who are disillusioned and heart-broken by exactly what you have been through. Isn't it amazing how 'conveniently' these types of men (abusive, controlling) overlook the scriptures that point out their own errors? Like..."He who does not provide for his own family is worse than an infidel..." Three cheers for your mother also, who got out of that mess...poor woman! To Coleslaw...the thing about not cutting a woman's hair...could it have something to do with reverting back to cave days...you know...handy to drag her around by? (((HUGS))) to another precious Sister Grandma Lou
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Post by linnea on May 20, 2009 23:39:48 GMT -5
Welcome, Juju!
Isn't there something in the Bible about nobody cutting their hair, male or female? I thought that was how Rastafarians explained their dreadlocks.
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