Post by mara on Aug 25, 2009 12:19:34 GMT -5
I've been lurking here a while.
It was Vyckie's twisted love post that fueled me to register here.
I home schooled in the past but now my children are in public school and doing very nicely. (One in grade school, one in high school, and two in college.)
Though I was never fully sucked into the Quiverfull/Patriarchy movement, you just about cannot home school without coming across it.
The reason I no longer home school and presently work outside the home is not because I 'cracked'. I could have probably kept on keeping on indefinitely. It was my husband who cracked. He couldn't withstand the pressure of being the only breadwinner.
But before any quiverfull minded want to judge him, you need to know that he has been diagnosed with Adult ADHD. And before anyone wants to tell me such a thing does not exist, all I have to say is, you try living with it, undiagnosed for 17 years, and then come back and tell me it doesn't exist.
I'd go back to homeschooling in a heart beat if I could. I loved it because I love books and knowledge and information.
But I am content with my life now. I know that I gave my children a good foundation. They are good hearted children who are mostly well-behaved. And they all go to church with me to this day. Unlike their father who, as I said, cracked. He is now an alcoholic.
And before anybody judges him over this, all I have to say is that he treats me much better as a functioning alcoholic than he ever did as a pastor.
Still, someday, I'd like for him to quit drinking for the sake of his liver, and go to church with me because he still believes in the Christian expression of God. He just wants to keep God at arm's length at this time in his life.
P.S. Though we did believe in birth control, we also believed that children were a blessing and were planning on having more. But because of my husband's ADHD we had to stop. We have more kids than what his patience level can handle. When they irritate him sometimes he says under his breath, "Why did I have so many kids?" And we only have four.
It was Vyckie's twisted love post that fueled me to register here.
I home schooled in the past but now my children are in public school and doing very nicely. (One in grade school, one in high school, and two in college.)
Though I was never fully sucked into the Quiverfull/Patriarchy movement, you just about cannot home school without coming across it.
The reason I no longer home school and presently work outside the home is not because I 'cracked'. I could have probably kept on keeping on indefinitely. It was my husband who cracked. He couldn't withstand the pressure of being the only breadwinner.
But before any quiverfull minded want to judge him, you need to know that he has been diagnosed with Adult ADHD. And before anyone wants to tell me such a thing does not exist, all I have to say is, you try living with it, undiagnosed for 17 years, and then come back and tell me it doesn't exist.
I'd go back to homeschooling in a heart beat if I could. I loved it because I love books and knowledge and information.
But I am content with my life now. I know that I gave my children a good foundation. They are good hearted children who are mostly well-behaved. And they all go to church with me to this day. Unlike their father who, as I said, cracked. He is now an alcoholic.
And before anybody judges him over this, all I have to say is that he treats me much better as a functioning alcoholic than he ever did as a pastor.
Still, someday, I'd like for him to quit drinking for the sake of his liver, and go to church with me because he still believes in the Christian expression of God. He just wants to keep God at arm's length at this time in his life.
P.S. Though we did believe in birth control, we also believed that children were a blessing and were planning on having more. But because of my husband's ADHD we had to stop. We have more kids than what his patience level can handle. When they irritate him sometimes he says under his breath, "Why did I have so many kids?" And we only have four.
