Post by jennie on Apr 16, 2009 21:02:33 GMT -5
Hi, everyone -
I just found the "No Longer Quivering" blog a few days ago, so I haven't posted many comments.
I've been married to a great guy for 20 years, and we have two children whom I homeschool. Our marriage is pretty much egalitarian, although we don't really title it as such. I'm a Christ follower, but I'm no longer religious about much of anything.
I started down a legalistic path of Christianity shortly after we got married, and it lasted until about 5 years ago. We got involved in a very controlling church, which allowed me to see the dark side of legalism up close and personal. After we left, I went through a crisis of faith and started re-evaluating a lot of stuff. I realized how much of a people pleaser I was. I also realized that God didn't love my any less now that I was no longer jumping through all the religious hoops.
I live in an area with a LOT of homeschoolers, so I know over 10 quiverfull families. None of them have made the lifestyle appealing to me. I was considering it about 7 years ago, when I became good friends with a QF mom. I told her that I was open to it, but my husband didn't really want to have more children. She told me that she would pray that God would change his heart. I said OK, and let it go at that. I decided not to say anything to him about the conversation, and felt that if he decided all on his own that he wanted more children, then that would be confirmation that QF was the way for us to go. About three months later, my DH decided that he REALLY did not want any more children. When I later told him about the conversation, he said, "Well, God did answer her prayer. He did change my heart." I just had to laugh.
I'm looking forward to talking more with you all. I love how eclectic this group is, from reading all your introductions.
Jennie
I just found the "No Longer Quivering" blog a few days ago, so I haven't posted many comments.
I've been married to a great guy for 20 years, and we have two children whom I homeschool. Our marriage is pretty much egalitarian, although we don't really title it as such. I'm a Christ follower, but I'm no longer religious about much of anything.
I started down a legalistic path of Christianity shortly after we got married, and it lasted until about 5 years ago. We got involved in a very controlling church, which allowed me to see the dark side of legalism up close and personal. After we left, I went through a crisis of faith and started re-evaluating a lot of stuff. I realized how much of a people pleaser I was. I also realized that God didn't love my any less now that I was no longer jumping through all the religious hoops.
I live in an area with a LOT of homeschoolers, so I know over 10 quiverfull families. None of them have made the lifestyle appealing to me. I was considering it about 7 years ago, when I became good friends with a QF mom. I told her that I was open to it, but my husband didn't really want to have more children. She told me that she would pray that God would change his heart. I said OK, and let it go at that. I decided not to say anything to him about the conversation, and felt that if he decided all on his own that he wanted more children, then that would be confirmation that QF was the way for us to go. About three months later, my DH decided that he REALLY did not want any more children. When I later told him about the conversation, he said, "Well, God did answer her prayer. He did change my heart." I just had to laugh.
I'm looking forward to talking more with you all. I love how eclectic this group is, from reading all your introductions.
Jennie
