Post by kaycee71 on Mar 15, 2010 22:44:53 GMT -5
Hi There,
My name is Kerry & I am a 38 year old, pseudo-married (almost 16 years together, wow!) woman who is a hard-core, fundamentalist (wait for it)
Kerryist (ha, gotcha!) I was born to an uber-liberal Mom, who lost all faith in any god, when her father took ill with progressively worse strokes. However, I was exposed to various Christian sects, attended Catholic & Methodist churches (by choice) & also looked into various other religions during my teens to come to find that I found ALL organized religions to be a sham! Everyone seems to have a "my god is better than your god" mentality in each & every religion I researched, firsthand, & believe me sisters, I researched them all. My religion is sort of based on good Christian principles, mixed with a tad of New Agey goodness, with just a pinch of worship of nature. My "church" is my front yard, my vegetable garden, the beach, the lake, driving through the mountains, etc. I am a sort of "live & let live" sort that doesn't try to sway anyone's beliefs, because I believe one's faith is one's own business. I became enthralled with the Quiverfull movement ala the Duggars & the more I dug into it, the more I found that it is most certainly a cult! It is frightful to treat women & children as property & not as single human beings with hopes, dreams, fears, love, & respect.
I had every intention to produce some offspring, actually hoping to have 3 kids, just as I was one of & so was my "husband" & was working & in school to attain a dual degree in child psychology & special education when I started coming down with some odd symptomology. I decided then to push back our wedding plans & it is best that I have, as my medical bills by this point have easily built up close to a million dollars & even with his medical insurance, I'd have buried him in bills & we would not have the home & other goofy pleasures. As for the little ones: I have lost 3 pregnancies, early on, & to put it lightly: someone's plumbing is on the fritz & while I was highly irregular up until about 3 years ago, I'm now very regular with a 28 day cycle (which is good & bad because I know when to plan things & I am absolutely TERRIFIED of pregnancy because of the many medications I take woulod most likely produce a child with horns & eyes in the palms of their hands! Anyhoooo, I love kids: he doesn't, matter of fact he is petrified of kids under 5 years old, so while I am certain we would have had some awesome kids together, I've come to accept that reproduction just wasn't in the cards for me & no offense to those who are unmarried parents, I am still of the mind that a child should be allowed to have married parents, so as not to center unwarranted & nasty attentions, & while it would be nice to be his wife, at this point it is just a piece of paper & to tell you the truth, being a "pseudo-wife" is pretty freakin' sweet! I am lucky to have found a man who doesn't drink or do drugs, doesn't chase after women & is supportive in all ways. He is a hardcore Atheist & he let's me pursue whatever passions I want. I skipped over a HUGE part of what turned me off of religion & I am sure there will be plenty who think I am flakier & Granny's biscuits for this, but I feel this is integral to understanding me: when I was 5, I was hit by a car & dragged 75 feet with my left leg wrapped around the rear axle. When the ambulance arrived, I was clinically dead & was resuscitated twice & lingered in a coma for 4 days. I have learned that death is nothing to fear, but that I was to stay here in this realm, this plane of existence, because I have a mission. What it is, I still have no flippin' clue, but from what my adult mind grasped from my "otherworldly" visitation is that it's not religion which counts, it's not trying to live up to standards that were written thousands of years ago: it's how you treat others & how much love you shared when you were alive. I mean no offense to anyone's relgious beliefs in any way, as I said: your faith is YOURS alone! So I try to live a righteous existence & do my best to treat others well & to spread love, even to those who do not feel worthy of it, I seek to find purpose in my life & find beauty in nature & science. So, if you read this & feel compelled to tear into me or lecture me about your FAITH & your relationship with God or "The Lord," please spare me. I respect your choice, please respect mine.
My experiences with a serious auto-immune disease have loaned itself to teaching me patience & to help those who get lost in medical mazes. I try to learn something new every day & I was so happy to have found this blog, as the QF world absolutely fascinates & baffles me. I feel Michelle Duggar is a sweet woman, but she is putting herself into mortal danger with these pregnancies & my biggest fear for her is that she is going to develop clots, which if they don't kill her outright, will transform her into a sort of vegetable & her children will lose the love & guidance of their mother, who is most certainly a buffer to JimBob's over the top QF, uber conservative views. Michelle, if she should perish in childbirth (or as a result of), would be replaced quicker than a cow in a dairy barn, most likely with a younger, more fertile Mrs. who will undoubtedly do all she can to make the original kids suffer. Reading the stories on this blog, from the various women, just shows me how little women are respected in the QF movement & for those still in it, have you & your husband ever discussed what will happen if your should become a "martyr" of the movement? How soon would your husband remarry? I fear for the callous answer you'd be given...
I have said my piece to let you kind folks into my mindset & to get to know me a little. I am rooting for all of you "escapees" & hope that you will find comfort with time & perhaps develop a faith/belief system that works for you, as I feel that there is certainly more than this life & something/someone who is a sort of "celestial ringleader." But, as I said, you believe in what works for you & makes you happy. All of you woman/girls have lots of worth & potential outside of the home & are more than just chattel or property to males. I hope that some of you will see beyond the walls that have enclosed you & made to keep you ignorant of worth & respect in the eyes of the men (as well as the other women) in your communities. You not only have the power to CHANGE lives, but you have the power to CREATE them & I hope that the younger women will consider chasing after your dreams to become doctors, lawyers, research biologists, archeologists, race-car drivers, mechanics, artists & writers! Much love to all of you.
My name is Kerry & I am a 38 year old, pseudo-married (almost 16 years together, wow!) woman who is a hard-core, fundamentalist (wait for it)
Kerryist (ha, gotcha!) I was born to an uber-liberal Mom, who lost all faith in any god, when her father took ill with progressively worse strokes. However, I was exposed to various Christian sects, attended Catholic & Methodist churches (by choice) & also looked into various other religions during my teens to come to find that I found ALL organized religions to be a sham! Everyone seems to have a "my god is better than your god" mentality in each & every religion I researched, firsthand, & believe me sisters, I researched them all. My religion is sort of based on good Christian principles, mixed with a tad of New Agey goodness, with just a pinch of worship of nature. My "church" is my front yard, my vegetable garden, the beach, the lake, driving through the mountains, etc. I am a sort of "live & let live" sort that doesn't try to sway anyone's beliefs, because I believe one's faith is one's own business. I became enthralled with the Quiverfull movement ala the Duggars & the more I dug into it, the more I found that it is most certainly a cult! It is frightful to treat women & children as property & not as single human beings with hopes, dreams, fears, love, & respect.
I had every intention to produce some offspring, actually hoping to have 3 kids, just as I was one of & so was my "husband" & was working & in school to attain a dual degree in child psychology & special education when I started coming down with some odd symptomology. I decided then to push back our wedding plans & it is best that I have, as my medical bills by this point have easily built up close to a million dollars & even with his medical insurance, I'd have buried him in bills & we would not have the home & other goofy pleasures. As for the little ones: I have lost 3 pregnancies, early on, & to put it lightly: someone's plumbing is on the fritz & while I was highly irregular up until about 3 years ago, I'm now very regular with a 28 day cycle (which is good & bad because I know when to plan things & I am absolutely TERRIFIED of pregnancy because of the many medications I take woulod most likely produce a child with horns & eyes in the palms of their hands! Anyhoooo, I love kids: he doesn't, matter of fact he is petrified of kids under 5 years old, so while I am certain we would have had some awesome kids together, I've come to accept that reproduction just wasn't in the cards for me & no offense to those who are unmarried parents, I am still of the mind that a child should be allowed to have married parents, so as not to center unwarranted & nasty attentions, & while it would be nice to be his wife, at this point it is just a piece of paper & to tell you the truth, being a "pseudo-wife" is pretty freakin' sweet! I am lucky to have found a man who doesn't drink or do drugs, doesn't chase after women & is supportive in all ways. He is a hardcore Atheist & he let's me pursue whatever passions I want. I skipped over a HUGE part of what turned me off of religion & I am sure there will be plenty who think I am flakier & Granny's biscuits for this, but I feel this is integral to understanding me: when I was 5, I was hit by a car & dragged 75 feet with my left leg wrapped around the rear axle. When the ambulance arrived, I was clinically dead & was resuscitated twice & lingered in a coma for 4 days. I have learned that death is nothing to fear, but that I was to stay here in this realm, this plane of existence, because I have a mission. What it is, I still have no flippin' clue, but from what my adult mind grasped from my "otherworldly" visitation is that it's not religion which counts, it's not trying to live up to standards that were written thousands of years ago: it's how you treat others & how much love you shared when you were alive. I mean no offense to anyone's relgious beliefs in any way, as I said: your faith is YOURS alone! So I try to live a righteous existence & do my best to treat others well & to spread love, even to those who do not feel worthy of it, I seek to find purpose in my life & find beauty in nature & science. So, if you read this & feel compelled to tear into me or lecture me about your FAITH & your relationship with God or "The Lord," please spare me. I respect your choice, please respect mine.
My experiences with a serious auto-immune disease have loaned itself to teaching me patience & to help those who get lost in medical mazes. I try to learn something new every day & I was so happy to have found this blog, as the QF world absolutely fascinates & baffles me. I feel Michelle Duggar is a sweet woman, but she is putting herself into mortal danger with these pregnancies & my biggest fear for her is that she is going to develop clots, which if they don't kill her outright, will transform her into a sort of vegetable & her children will lose the love & guidance of their mother, who is most certainly a buffer to JimBob's over the top QF, uber conservative views. Michelle, if she should perish in childbirth (or as a result of), would be replaced quicker than a cow in a dairy barn, most likely with a younger, more fertile Mrs. who will undoubtedly do all she can to make the original kids suffer. Reading the stories on this blog, from the various women, just shows me how little women are respected in the QF movement & for those still in it, have you & your husband ever discussed what will happen if your should become a "martyr" of the movement? How soon would your husband remarry? I fear for the callous answer you'd be given...
I have said my piece to let you kind folks into my mindset & to get to know me a little. I am rooting for all of you "escapees" & hope that you will find comfort with time & perhaps develop a faith/belief system that works for you, as I feel that there is certainly more than this life & something/someone who is a sort of "celestial ringleader." But, as I said, you believe in what works for you & makes you happy. All of you woman/girls have lots of worth & potential outside of the home & are more than just chattel or property to males. I hope that some of you will see beyond the walls that have enclosed you & made to keep you ignorant of worth & respect in the eyes of the men (as well as the other women) in your communities. You not only have the power to CHANGE lives, but you have the power to CREATE them & I hope that the younger women will consider chasing after your dreams to become doctors, lawyers, research biologists, archeologists, race-car drivers, mechanics, artists & writers! Much love to all of you.
) and not get a job (and wouldn't really be able to either...). I think they decided that *if* dad found someone who would marry an oldish Portuguese guy with 8 kids, he'd do it. I think the same would go for mom, but I don't really remember. It's a good question though, I'm not sure how many QF people have thought about what would happen if one or both of the parents died...
