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Post by Vyckie D. Garrison on Feb 8, 2010 14:13:51 GMT -5
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Post by susan on Feb 8, 2010 15:49:57 GMT -5
Wow, how awful for you, Ruth! ((((hug))))
I am wondering, is this attitude of thinking little girls shouldn't be too rambunctious, common among QF/P folks?
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Post by sandra on Feb 8, 2010 16:43:24 GMT -5
<<<<...attitude of thinking little girls shouldn't be too rambunctious...>>>>
It still seems common in society at large. My now-12yo daughter engendered lots of comments as a toddler along the lines of "my, she's very ACTIVE, isn't she?" when she was simply playing with the other (male) children at the playground. This was no where near a religious community but rather our regular neighborhood park in Los Angeles near Sony Pictures.
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Post by grandmalou on Feb 9, 2010 8:06:26 GMT -5
<<<<...attitude of thinking little girls shouldn't be too rambunctious...>>>> It still seems common in society at large. My now-12yo daughter engendered lots of comments as a toddler along the lines of "my, she's very ACTIVE, isn't she?" when she was simply playing with the other (male) children at the playground. This was no where near a religious community but rather our regular neighborhood park in Los Angeles near Sony Pictures. Rambunctious! Wow! I haven't heard that word in a looooong time! LOL...remember it, though, as a kid...which, in my case, was a bunch of years ago. And it was applied to me, a tree-climbing, jeans wearing rough and tumble 'tomboy' who felt far more comfortable hiking the hills, hunting, fishing, playing football than hanging out in the kitchen with Mom and Grandma. Can't remember a time when I felt like a 'dainty, beautiful woman'...more like "one of the guys"...oy, vey!
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Post by verklempt on Feb 9, 2010 10:08:49 GMT -5
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Post by starfury on Feb 9, 2010 13:43:07 GMT -5
As another person made to have her own room (well, I was the oldest, so...?), I can totally understand the loneliness of being the only girl. I prayed constantly for as much of the 8 years (and 3 brothers) that I can remember before I finally had a sister. I would sometimes sneak into the big room my brothers shared after we all "went to bed" to sleep in there... it was less lonely!
As the oldest child, as well as oldest daughter, I think I was more prone to be a bit more girly (and motherly) than my younger sister, but I have definitely seen the "she's too tomboyish" stuff about my sister. Well, what do you expect when you have 7 brothers and your only other sister is 8 years older than you?
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Post by WanderingOne on Feb 15, 2010 23:55:46 GMT -5
I am wondering, is this attitude of thinking little girls shouldn't be too rambunctious, common among QF/P folks? yup. The sisters, female cousins, and I weren't allowed to go outside and play if the boys were outside, because they might influence us and then we'd do unfeminine things and play games not appropriate for our gender or some craziness.
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Post by Sierra on Feb 16, 2010 14:31:35 GMT -5
All this talk of being forced to have one's own room is really amusing to me. As an only child, I felt nothing but pity for my QF church-mates who had to share bedrooms with three or four siblings. I liked my space (and still do).
I was looked on with hefty suspicion at my church for being 'rambunctious' and climbing trees. I wore leggings under my skirts, thinking modesty was the issue, but now I'm thinking it was the freedom and activity. A few girls followed my lead and started playing tag-football with the boys in my church. Cue MASSIVE ANGST about potential male-female touching (like we actually thought we could get away with tackling each other... ha). This was a lot more than any other 'Message' church lets its youth get away with.
Once a bunch of teenage girls and I (all around 18 years old) were forcibly ejected from the basketball court behind a Connecticut church because their 12 year old brothers wanted to play. Someone suggested we just let the boys join us and one of the boys said, and I quote, "You can't touch us!" I was bewildered to find myself the only one who was angry as we surrendered the net and walked away.
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Post by Vyckie D. Garrison on Feb 20, 2010 22:15:33 GMT -5
Several of you have PM'd, emailed, or in the chat room expressed concern for RazingRuth ~ her last blog post: razingruth.blogspot.com/ was quite disturbing and it had been almost a week since anyone had heard from her. I emailed her this afternoon and just received a response. Ruth is safe ~ just not feeling very well (sick) ~ and she is pretty shook up ~ but she says she is "okay." Hopefully, she'll be feeling well enough to provide more of an update soon. (((((((Hugs to Ruth)))))))
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