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Post by Vyckie D. Garrison on Jul 30, 2009 11:36:10 GMT -5
Maybe we need a sub-FAQ on identifying abuse?
Good idea, cereselle ~ here's the thread in which to work on that FAQ. Mimi ~ not to discourage you, but we really need a FAQ which is QF-specific. If I'd have read through the "how to identify abuse" info. that you just posted ~ well, I wouldn't have read it in the first place because I just already knew that I wasn't being abused ~ but, if I had read it, I still would not have identified myself as being in an abusive relationship. It's a little tricky to explain ~ and I think it's going to have to be done by those of us who have been in the QF belief system and understand the mindset and the language. So ~ philosophia, lectio, cindy, hillary, stampinmama, princessjo, (who else?) ~ wanna help with this one? I'll be back here when I get some extra time ~ right now, I'm working on getting NLQ switched over to wordpress.
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Post by lectio on Jul 30, 2009 23:51:15 GMT -5
Agreed----I was being abused but had NO CLUE it was abuse, because the paradigm I was in saw God's Authority as the primary pillar upon which all God's other attributes rested, therefore obedience was paramount, and "dominance" was, well...GOOD and HOLY. So when my husband was dominant, it was seen as...godly. When my husband had a vision for everything, down to tiny details, and expected my strict obedience, it was...godly. And when you were taught that any action or THOUGHT against your spiritual authority (husband) is rebellion against God (and rebellion is the sin of Satan), then, well... You spend so much time thinking that the problem is with YOU and you never get the chance, due to the exhuastion of the lifestyle, to really THINK about what might actually be going on...
It is a very difficult thing to work one's way out of.
Women coming out of this mindset need MASSIVE and CONSTANT doses of nurturing encouragement and affirmation. Think of a wounded little puppy considering taking a peek outside of her kennel, nervously looking out at the world wondering if she can take a step out of it without being attacked.
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Post by tapati on Jul 30, 2009 23:56:20 GMT -5
Some of the information in this article might be useful in any discussion of religious forms of abuse, of course put into QF terms. I agree that only people who are quite familiar with the specific forms of emotional and spiritual abuse that take place within the QF life can define it in a way that those on the inside can relate to. www.icsahome.com/infoserv_articles/lorenz_diana_spiritpain.htmThe author is one of the moderators at Gaudiya Repercussions.
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Post by cereselle on Jul 31, 2009 12:36:46 GMT -5
Bad case for us: www.legalnewsline.com/news/213856-texas-supreme-court-rejects-exorcism-lawsuitIn brief, an AoG group pinned a 17-year-old to the floor and attempted to exorcise demons. She was left with bruises, abrasions, and what looks like symptoms of PTSD. The trial court awarded her $300,000; the appeals court reduced that, but the state supreme court threw it out entirely, saying that it was part of religious expression and the court couldn't regulate it. The US Supreme Court did not choose to hear the appeal. So the Texas Supreme Court's decision stands. This will make it much more difficult to sustain any allegations of QF abuse in Texas. Boo.
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Post by cereselle on Jul 31, 2009 12:53:24 GMT -5
A resource: The Journal of Religion and Abuse ( www.informaworld.com/smpp/title~content=t792306954~db=all ) Sadly, this ceased publication last year, but there may be some articles in there worth reading. It would be a citeable resource, at least. I can drive to another school a couple hours away and copy stuff out of this. Those interested, could you please check the tables of contents of those issues and tell me what you think would be useful?
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Post by lectio on Aug 1, 2009 12:04:57 GMT -5
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