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Post by humbletigger on Mar 22, 2010 11:00:33 GMT -5
I want to read more too! Can't wait.
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Post by humbletigger on Mar 9, 2010 16:59:55 GMT -5
Haven't had time to read all the comments, but oh my, the OPs story? I had to hear how my twin sister and I were conceived through condoms, spermicide and a diaphragm!
My mom ranted on and on about hating motherhood and men, and I for many years blamed feminism for my mom's rejection of my sisters and me.
Now I know my mom is mental, and I actually think the only way life could've been worse for me is if my mom had stayed home and home schooled us! Feminism wasn't the reason my mom is mental, it was just a convenient banner to wave to justify her hard heart.
She waved any banner that would suit her ends. Single, divorced and on the prowl on one hand- attending patriarchal fundamentalist church that upheld her AUTHORITAY over her children on enough Sundays to be part of that crowd too. The lives never overlapped, and if they had she just would've changed churches.
But I digress. Her rejection is exactly why I chose to be a SAHM and home educator. I nursed and nurtured my babies all the way.
Thankfully I avoided the rabid pro-life crowd, got my tubes tied after #2, and read Dr. Sears and Penelope Leach instead of the Pearls (yuck!) and Ezzo.
And I have decided to let feminism off the hook for my mom, though it still gets a knee-jerk reaction out of me at times to hear that word.
(Feminst! Fem-in-ist. feminist feminist feminist. Just practicing. =)
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Post by humbletigger on Nov 13, 2009 10:04:23 GMT -5
I was only logging on to say how happy I am for Angel and all of the other children!
But now I am bummed reading about the ostracization of Alicia Jeub and wishing she could come live with me. Alicia, if you're out there and you want help escaping, I have room at my house! to_shadowspring@yahoo.com
I stood by my Christian home school daughter, not understanding why she was so angry, bitter and depressed, but determined to love her and stand by her no matter what. I was totally ostracized by the home school community- on the Christian side because I let my daughter dress Goth, listen to secular music and have real pirvacy in her room and her thoughts, plus my son had a mohawk and spiked it with colored hair gel! I thought is was just the extremism of the area I had recently moved to, but now I know it was extremism taking hold in Christian home schooling in general.
We were also ostracized by the secular home school groups on other grounds- that we were religious at all or too structured in our learning, etc. It's been hard.
But now I am so happy that I had the strength to endure all that rejection and judgement and continue to love my daughter! She is thriving now , in college, finding who she wants to be. She made some mistakes along the way, but we never pushed her away for any of them. Loving her is way more important to us than looking good in the eyes of any outsider.
(Like Vickye and Angel it was a sucky marriage that was making life so hard for my daughter; unlike Vickye my husband got a clue and is mending his ways so we are all experiencing healing together! =)
Anyway, best wishes to all! Enjoy the good life God has given you, and if you don't believe in God, enjoy the good life you find yourself living! Peace.
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Post by humbletigger on Jul 25, 2009 11:38:28 GMT -5
Just reading the first paragraph about how your marriage began made me furious for you! You precious woman, how did that happen to you? So wrong!
This is my first post, and I must out myself as a committed Christian who thinks the whole patriarchy crapola is a distortion of the ministry of Jesus Christ and a total misuse of scripture.
Note I did not say they were not "true Christians". They are Christians, since we all get to self-declare on that one, but they are using their faith to indulge their selfish and avoid the hard work of growing emotionally as a loving person in this life.
I can thank my feminist, divorced mother (even though I did not get along with her!) for giving me a strong sense of self as a female. And I can thank the first minister at the first church I chose as an adult. He boldly spoke to us the truth that "wives submit unto your own husbands as unto the Lord" meant that IF your husband was honoring the Lord and loving you like the Lord does and acting like the Lord would toward you, then and only then did a wife need to "submit" to him.
Of course, then the word cooperate would be a better fit, because there would be no problems in the relationship. It would be one of mutual love and respect. Jesus treated women with great respect and honor.
I simply cannot imagine Jesus demanding someone clean the house spotless and then jump in the sack for him, with no thought for the woman's heart or physical condition. That just wouldn't happen.
So I offer tender sympathy to you from one woman to another, and I am so happy for you and your children that you are out of that situation.
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